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Friday, September 7, 2007

I don't wanna be like Cinderella!

Update on the adoption front--NOTHING!!! Emailed Lindsay yesterday (for my weekly nagging about referrals--she promises me I'm not nagging but she probably commits hari-kari everytime she sees my email address...just kidding! Lindsay is great, very patient!). Anyway she said no news, but maybe some referrals in the next couple weeks...whether mine is among these remains to be seen. Please, Please, Please.

So, shifting gears. Lots of people ask me why I'm not married (is this really a question that needs to be asked?). Hmmm...maybe because I've never met someone who I want to marry, or vice versa. I'm not gay, I'm not mean, I'm not a moocher...I'm extremely shy, socially inept, overweight and intimidating. That last one floored me...I had a coworker tell me a couple years ago that he (if he was still in the "market for a girl") would find me very intimdating! Since when is owning my own house and being independent intimidating? Sure I'd LOVE to be married, never thought I wouldn't be...but I also know that my life is not going to be put on hold while all the guys around get over their inferiority complex because I know how to mow the lawn and handle a drill!

So in honor of that sentiment, here are the lyrics to a wonderful song that sums it up perfectly! (When I get it figured out, I'll actually make the song play on my blog...still working that one out!).


When I was just a little girl
My momma used to tuck me into bed and she'd read me a story.
It was always 'bout a princess in distress and how the guy would save her
And end up with the glory.
I'd lie in bed and think about the person that I wanted to be,
Then one day I realized the fairytale life
Wasn't for me.

I don't wanna be like Cinderella,
Sitting in her dark cold dusty cellar,
Waiting for somebody to come and set me free.
I don't wanna be like Snow White, waiting
For a handsome prince to come and save me
On a horse of white, unless we're riding side by side.
Don't wanna depend on no one else.
I'd rather rescue myself!

Someday I'm gonna find someone
Who wants me body, soul, heart, and mind,
Who's not afraid to show that he loves me.
Somebody who will understand
I'm happy just the way that I am.
Don't need nobody taking care of me.
I will be there for him, just as strong as he will be there for me
When I tell myself it has got to be an equal thing.


I can slay my own dragons.
I can dream my own dreams.
My night in shining armor is ME.
So I'm gonna set me free!



Stacie said...

Love the lyrics Jill.
I can say Amen to the being independent. I was too. I got married at 26. Taylor was 22.
He's strong enough in himself that he loved that I was independent. Doesn't make sense marrying the wrong one.
I admire you going and being a parent on your own.
Stacie F

Bruce: said...

Don't know if it is appropriate for Dad to respond to a blog entry such as this, but here goes:

when I tell people that you are adopting I am ofen asked if you can't have children of your own. It seems many people feel that is a logical progression inthe adoption process. Well, I say nuts to that. It's like the adoption is a second choice for parenting. And it shouldn't be. It is just a choice that some make. I love you for taking this step. I, too, never thought you wouldn't be married. And besides, you aren't dead yet, you've got plenty of time. You can never truely be single again, you know. Might as well enjoy it.

Bravo to you for taking this couragous step alone. But not totally alone. Many of us are along side of you.

Love you, Dad.

Jill said...

Thanks Dad! That made me cry...better get ready. You will be accompanying an emotional-basket-case to Ethiopia!!

Stacie said...

Jill - you are AWESOME! (And your dad sounds pretty cool too! Yay Jill's Dad! :) Love the song and love your attitude. (Also - that is the other Stacie above - we spell our names the same - don't want you to think I'm going crazy! :)

Kristina said...

Jill, I thought you would appreciate this, which I just received a day after reading this post.
Once upon a time in a land far away, a beautiful, independent,
self-assured princess happened upon a frog as she sat contemplating ecological issues
on the shores of an unpolluted pond
in a verdant meadow near her castle.
The frog hopped into the princess' lap and said: " Elegant Lady,
I was once a handsome prince,
until an evil witch cast a spell upon me.
One kiss from you, however,
and I will turn back
into the dapper, young prince that I am and then, my sweet, we can marry and set up housekeeping in your castle with my mother,
where you can prepare my meals,
clean my clothes, bear my children,
and forever feel grateful and happy doing so. "

That night,as the princess dined sumptuously on lightly sautéed frog legs seasoned in a white wine
and onion cream sauce, she chuckled and thought to herself:

I don't freakin think so.
Kristina P